For Adults

Here are some tips to help you and your teen feel comfortable and prepared for “The Talk.”

Be sure to view Big Status Update, the Talking Sex Together™ public service announcement video. There are classroom discussion questions and a video directions that accompany the video as well. “Jeremy’s Story” is the follow up PSA to Big Status Update. This video offers a perspective on teen parenting from a young dad’s point of view. There are classroom discussion guide is an accompanying video directions document.

Did You Know?

  • Teens say that their parents influence their decisions about sex even more than their friends, their siblings, or the media.
  • Most teens agree that if they had more open, honest conversations about sex and pregnancy with their parents, they would have an easier time postponing sex and avoiding pregnancy.
  • Teenage girls who have “The Talk” are less than half as likely to get pregnant as those who don’t.

Tips for “The Talk”

We know “The Talk” can be just as nerve-wracking for parents as it is for teens, so here are some tips to get the conversation going.

Start early

If possible, start the conversation when your child is young. Continued conversation helps teens make good decisions at every phase of their lives.

Don’t make it awkward

Most teens would rather talk about sex when the topic comes up naturally in conversation. Try bringing it up during a TV show like “Teen Mom.” Here are some conversation starters:

  • Ask your child if he/she thinks the show accurately portrays reality and consequences.
  • Talk about how to handle pressure.
  • Discuss the importance of healthy relationships.

Keep communication open

Instead of having a sit-down lecture, aim for two-way discussion so your teen feels comfortable to ask questions.

Keep it positive

While it’s important to discuss the consequences of unplanned pregnancy, focusing only on the downside doesn’t answer worries that may be on your teen’s mind.

Make it about more than just sex

It’s important to talk about healthy relationships with your child to build his/her self-esteem and to encourage him/her to treat others with respect.

Talk about love

Help your teen understand the difference between love and sex. Here are some issues they may want to talk about:

  • How do I know if I’m in love?
  • Will sex bring me closer to my girlfriend/boyfriend?
  • How will I know when I’m ready to have sex?
  • Should I wait until marriage?
  • How do I tell my boyfriend/girlfriend that I don’t want to have sex?

Be clear

It’s important to make sure your teen understands your views about sex in order to form their own.

Want to Know More?

The Talking Sex Together™ (TxT) service is available for implementation in your agency. The TxT staff can assist you in launching the service, creating protocol and providing a TxTina® health educator. Our dedicated team will provide initial and ongoing technical support as well. We have seven years of successful implementation to bring to the table. We will handle everything for you! If you would like further details on purchasing this service, please contact Kristin Fairholm.